Tuesday, June 30, 2009
I've Been Missed
I arrived in Taunton as the next piece of my summer journey and I immediately began to see people who missed me. You know how touching it is to be missed. As we go through life, sometimes I think we feel as though if we disappeared it would make little if any difference to anybody. Ever had that feeling like you don't matter? I think most people would be missed far more than they ever imagined. This experience however is likely to be a flood of emotion if all the others I will be seeing act in a similar fashion. It touched the heart in a profound way to see that you impact your world. Maybe that sounds vain and that is not what I'm trying to convey. I guess I want you to know that you are priceless in God's eyes, and far more valuable to the other people around you than you could possibly guess. Wouldn't it be nice if we could show that appreciation freely when we are together without having to miss someone first? I don't care, the morning made me feel good. Maybe you can feel good realizing how much people would miss you.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Impatience
I had another experience of highway travel in America. I find it hard to believe the lack of patience you see in our people. The worst part is that it slows everybody down. From Richmond to Fredricksburg yesterday we had multiple stops and slow downs with no apparent cause. The highway could easily handle the volume of traffic but you have one person hit the brakes hard because someone has cut them off and you can just watch the brake lights go on and ther whole highway come to a screeching halt. After stop and go once again the speed would creep up until we were agin moving along well until the next time the brake light paralysis occurs. If people showed patience in ;if not just on the road but in life in general many logjams would be eliminated completely. Life would move evenly and in peace. The saying patience is a virtue is profound and yet I think too simple for people to take seriously. Patience however is a God lesson. We are meant to be imitators of Christ and how patient was God with me. i know I still test His patience. Patience is one of the lessons God insists we learn. If we don't we will continue to need it.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Home
"The fruit of silence is prayer
The fruit of prayer is faith
The fruit of faith is love
The fruit of love is service
The fruit of service is peace"
It is in the silence of home that I begin my journey to peace in my soul. As I begin the summer of travel I know I must find silence on the road. I have said for years that in that silence I rarely hear God speak to me. I do however find that when I have that silence with my God, he speaks to me in so many ways later in the activities of my life. God provides what I need by directing my life as a result of my starting in silence. The silence is the tuning fork that helps me follow the notes of life and keep on pitch with God's will. It is that resonant vibration that becomes so clear it leads you, you know when you have become dissonant. Lord give me a special gift of discipline as I roam this summer that I will continue to find the silence with you.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Traveling
I head on the road tomorrow for a day trip and then quickly in a couple of days the big trip for the summer. I know the variety of experiences I have this summer will probably stimulate a great deal that I could write about, but I also know I'm not likely to have the time to blog like I have been. It is funny how the one who loved confusion has become rather settled in a life of routine, fun but routine, activities. It seems strange to be moving out into a life which will be very flexible at the core. Here I have a group of people and places that fit together and work well. Away I'm not sure what life will be like. I know the days will be different and although I will certainly enjoy the time with friends and family, I will also find it difficult when others, because they care, want to make plans for me. A friend here in Myrtle Beach calls life the divine adventure, I'm sure the next months will fit the bill.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
My Cross to Bear

From those two realities of Marsha's life came my choice for today. You see I have worn crosses in the past. I wore my Cursillo cross for years but the base medal caused a rash on my neck so I had to give that up. Gold does not cause the same skin reaction. I decided I would take the gold from my wife's wedding ring and my wedding ring and have them melted and molded into a gold cross that I could wear. The cross will be a perpetual reminder of the love and marriage that filled my life for forty five years. I carry those memories with me and the love that will never end. This cross I bear, unlike the sacrificial cross of Christ, is a love filled token of my heart that will always belong to Marsha. The cross was also a central place of our meeting. We grew in love for each other in huge and powerful ways as our love of Christ grew in our hearts. We loved best when joined in the cross of Christ. She is my inspiration once again, the cross that touches my heart is there because of the cross she bore.
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
God's Time
Change of plans again. Does that sound familiar. I don't know about you but I am used to the way plans seem to change. We question why our plans are not fulfilled, as if we were in charge of everything and everyone. If I've learned anything in life it is that I'm not in control of everything, maybe not even controlling myself enough at times. Maybe it's easier for me because I'm a go with the flow kind of person, but often I see such frustration when life seems to be out of control. People are ill at ease when plans are broken and life is confused. Isn't that really the norm. What do we do when the car breaks, the job ends, our body hurts or fails, or people disappoint us. Life like old people is just full of unwanted wrinkles.
Trust in God exists in our response to those moments when life does not go as planned. Do we overreact? Do we panic? Do we pray for His answer or ours? Do we rest in the assurance that God is still in charge? We have an infinite spectrum of choices when life feels out of control. Trust in God should not make us inactive, rather it should make us keenly open to listening to God while we move through our life. All will be revealed in God's time.
This is the place where we really decide who is God. Does our life's response declare loudly that we know the living God is in charge, or does our life declare loudly that we think we are god and that we want to be in charge. Only one God is permissible in each life. Let me see, which god do I want today?
Monday, June 22, 2009
Stressless

I must say however that I have found the best job of all. You see I am now a retired Episcopal priest. As a priest, although I loved it, I was often breathless, but now I'm stressless. I get to pick and choose the involvement in the work I loved. I preach from time to time. I celebrate communion from time to time. I invest in areas of ministry that most interest me, but I don't have to stress over the whole spectrum of responsibilities. This is just what I wanted a stressless ministry. Although I don't get paid any money the salary can't be beat. God is good in the relationships and support I get, along with the knowledge that I am using those gifts God has given me, and still responding to God's call on my life. I think I could have found a stressless life, but it would have been inadequate without the opportunities to have purpose in my life as well. God is good all the time; all the time God is good.
Saturday, June 20, 2009

Friday, June 19, 2009
Can anything good come from Nazareth
You could easily replace Nazareth with your own place. Maybe you would rather replace Nazareth with your own situation. It might be a lost relationship, or a personal disease, or an unexpected layoff. In my life one of my lowest points was the day I realized that my friends had returned to college when I had been told to go home and grow up. I can remember going to bed that night and crying desperately that I had ruined my life. I didn't admit to the existence of God then, but on that bed something in me pushed me to begin reading profound books that I had avoided. Something in me challenged me to really use the mind God had given me. A better me began to take shape that night. I am not saying that all situations are good. That would be an obvious error. I do mean to say that good is embedded as a possibility in any situation. Experience is a great teacher, and even if the learning was not helpful for me at the moment, it can be immensely beneficial to others who can learn from me later as I share what I learned. Jesus can redeem anything that happens to us if we offer it to Him. Always ask God to help you see the moment as He sees it. Look at every reality with a God's eye view. How can God use this moment for the benefit of your life of for the good of others? I know something good can always come from ________!!!
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Grace upon grace

Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Your tax dollars
I've been wading through the details of accounts and property transfers which are needed because of Marsha's death. Cars, death certificates, registrations, taxes, titles, and other governmental issues have all been part of my reality. We hear again and again the criticism of the governmental red tape and incompetence. I have found none of that in my process. Those in the governmental agency have given me clear direction and helpful service. The privately run hospitals and the privately owned insurance companies are another story. People say that companies that need to make a profit have to give good service and be efficient and competent are sadly mistaken. The death certificates were mishandled by both the funeral director and the doctor. Paper work had to be redone and I was held up over a month in the process. The hospital billing company has still not figured out the requirements of the medicare supplement insurance. I've found both companies stretching the truth and passing the buck while forcing me the make numerous phone calls. I don't even want to go into the conflicting doctors observations on the same day, or the inability to start a blood transfusion without the one resident competent nurse in the hospital. It's easy to blame those who are paid by tax dollars. Nobody likes to pay taxes, but fairness needs to look at the reality of our world.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Two Gold Rings

Marsha and I had simple gold wedding rings we put on when we married and never took off. These two rings have bound us together for forty five years. Often wedding rings are spoken of as links in a chain that bind the two people together. If Marsha and I were chained then it would be because the links in a chain make up a single unity, the chain. I have taken my wedding ring and Marsha's wedding ring to a jeweler friend. He is making a cross from the gold of these two rings which I will wear on a chain close to my heart.
Marsha used to tease me that when I was preaching I would often, at what seemed to be times of thought or listening to God, I would spin my wedding ring on my finger. I don't know why I did that but I found that I did the same thing at lots of moments when I was trying to discern God's will. Marsha had that kind of link in my spiritual journey.
I want the two rings with me. Also our lives together were blessed so much more when they became centered in our love for the Lord . We grew together as people and as husband and wife when Christ became the center of our love for each other. This cross will confirm our bond forever in Christ and my desire for Marsha to always be close to my heart.
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Housekeeping
One of the new things in my life is the solitary responsibility for housekeeping. I did share in cleaning the house, but Marsha was the one who was clearly in charge. I did the dishes and meal cleanup and I vacuumed but the rest was under Marsha's control. Occasionally she would ask me to help with some other details but that was rare indeed. Now I see how diligent you need to be to keep a house clean and looking good.
It made me aware of how often we let things slide in the housecleaning of our lives. We let a little dust accumulate here and a little dirt penetrate there. We sweep one problem under the rug and ignore the next. Ultimately we create a greater problem, because whatever builds up makes clean up more difficult. Like in the house, routine cleaning makes the tasks easy and keeps the work from becoming intimidating or overwhelming. In our lives routine care for our difficult and challenging situations can make it easy to handle problems. We can lose our proper perspective on our identity by letting things go. We can feel depressed and overwhelmed by letting situations fester.
Self examination is the routine needed. Why do we neglect what is clearly in our best interest as if another solution has ever worked. Deal with life, deal with yourself. Your peace is too great a gift to lose, because of a lack of soul cleaning.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
How do I know.

Conversation

Remember only by sharing the real you and finding some folks who accept the real you will you ever have a true friend. Anything else fails to provide what God knows we need. Only then will the lights go on and our eyes look again like the eyes of children.
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Travel
Today I went to AAA to cancel the insurance on the Ford Focus that is no longer registered in South Carolina. After doing what I needed to do I decided to seek some information about driving to the Outer banks of North Carolina. I man was coming in to share his excitement about his trip to Egypt and Jerusalem. Once again I was thinking about all the plans Marsha and I had for our future. We always wanted to go to the Holy Land. Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today is not just advice for the hard work and disciple in accomplishing tasks, it is also a valuable piece of advice for the enjoyment of life.
Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Up

Saturday, June 6, 2009
Storms
This appears to be the season of thunder storms in Myrtle Beach. I played golf this morning and had a great day, but this week wisdom made me cut to rounds short when the sky turned black and thunder started to roll around the sky. It is interesting that on both days we had no need to leave the golf course because the storm clouds passed by without even a few drops of rain. Often in my life I have been worried or even frightened by the storm clouds of life. Events that seemed beyond my control would take on threatening power. Those clouds usually passed without significant impact as well. We have a great built in capacity to overcome even the greatest of storms. A stormy day even makes our sunny days seem even more spectacular. Jesus calmed the storm on the sea, he walked on the water even when the waves made Peter shake, he breathed peace on the disciples and promised peace to us that passes all understanding, and that will help us handle anything this world can bring our way.
Friday, June 5, 2009
It's tempting
It's tempting to focus our life outward. We often look for happiness outside ourselves and we often feel that we would find happiness in the right relationship or the perfect job or with better health. At the same time, or alternating with this search, we often blame others for our lack of happiness. It's the boss or the wife or the kids or the government or even fate or God that cause our distress. Isn't it tempting.
How easily we surrender control or responsibility for our own lives. I think we take the easy way out, and in the process condemn ourselves to continue on the path of unhappiness. Why do we think life should not contain sadness, acting as if it is a deadly disease. I was told by a friend to embrace my grief at the loss of Marsha and the words sounded peculiar, and yet, as I do it, I find a comfort and a strength. I own my choices in response to my new reality. If I take control of my life in this moment, which is really all I can control, I will find the joy of living. Even appropriate sadness, which will occur, gives me direction for my life.
Jesus was tempted just like we are and did not sin. He did not give over control of life. A favorite song of mine has the following words which come from scripture, "Consider it joy pure joy when troubles come, many trials will make you strong." I know I didn't appreciate enough the great gift I lived with every day until she was sick and then missing. But the joy comes in now I see the beauty of that relationship so clearly and the many strengths it brought to my life. That is where I find the joy. "All things work for the good for those who believe." Not that all things are good but they work for our good if we don't succumb to this natural temptation to blame outside sources for the realities of our life. Today what will I do with this moment. My happiness is in my grasp.
Thursday, June 4, 2009
Fishing

This afternoon I was part of a great fishing expedition. I watched a man ask three workers in a restaurant, "How can I pray for you today?". The results were amazing. They not only had things to submit to prayer but welcomed the request and the faith dialogue that followed including an invitation to join a faith community. Confidence in all that God created him to be allowed this dynamic fishing for people to happen. I learned to be much clearer about my identity in all my relationships, but also as I fish for my Lord's great catch.
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Planning

At the end of my final sermon, when Marsha and I left St. Thomas Church in Taunton, my wife had an offering as well. She asked me to play a song from the play "Wicked" sung by Sandi Patti called "For Good". It starts with a line about people coming into our lives for us to learn things we need to learn. I think Marsha was the greatest example of that in my life although others are in the list as well. Marsha was a planner, a list person, an organized individual who didn't particularly like surprises. I'm the opposite, moving at a whim or flowing with the Spirit, loving spontaneous life, change at a moments notice that's me. If we were leaving on a trip Marsha would have her clothes laid out in piles for weeks in advance and her list of what she needed to do, while I would throw things together at the last minute. We created a balance for one another once we stopped trying to change each other. It is so easy to think that our way of functioning is the only way to function or even the best way to function. Once we accepted that my style had it's value and Marsha's style had it's value, life worked better. Once we acknowledged that we needed the strengths of the other our life really improved.
On my own today I need to recognize that one of my greatest assets is no longer available. What Marsha brought to me I need to take care of in a different way. I hope she was brought into my life so I could learn some things I need to do for myself now.
The picture is from our wedding 45 years ago. Boy did we change as life went on, and I think for good.
Tuesday, June 2, 2009
Birthdays

Monday, June 1, 2009
Generations

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